75. You're Not Too Needy, You're Anxiously Attached with Ashley Kaylor

Have you ever felt completely confident in every area of your life, and then become completely undone by someone you're dating?

In this episode I'm joined by Ashley Kaylor, a certified attachment style coach and professional matchmaker. We go deep on anxious attachment: what it actually is, where it comes from, and why it shows up most painfully in the dynamics that feel the most intense.

In this episode we cover:

✨What anxious attachment actually is and how it develops in early childhood

✨ Why anxiously attached women are drawn to hot and cold dynamics, and why those dynamics feel more magnetic than healthy ones

✨ The anxious-avoidant loop: why it's so hard to leave even when you know it's not working

✨ What's really happening when you over-text, over-explain, or can't let an argument go

✨ How to stop performing a cooler version of yourself while silently spiralling

✨ How attachment styles can shift, and what moving toward secure actually looks and feels like

Whether you're currently in a pattern that's costing you or you just want to understand yourself better in love, this conversation will give you language for something you've been living without words for.

Take Ashley's free attachment style quiz: https://www.ashleykaylor.com/attachment-style-quiz

Connect with Ashley: https://www.ashleykaylor.com

Music: Dawn by Sappheiros @⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠sappheirosmusic⁠⁠